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About Domestic Abuse

 

Domestic abuse isn’t just physical.

 

It includes controlling, coercive, threatening and degrading behaviour, usually by a partner or ex-partner, but also by a family member or carer. It can also include financial control, belittling someone, isolating them from their friends and family, making threats to children or pets, controlling who they see or what they do or sexual violence. Living with domestic abuse can cause long term emotional as well as physical harm.

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Despite the fact that domestic abuse is common, it is under-reported. Some people may not be aware that what is happening to them is domestic abuse and some people do not tell anyone because they feel ashamed or that in some way it is their fault but this is never the case. If you are being abused, you are not alone, and it is not your fault.

 

Who is affected?

Anyone can be a victim of abuse and at Guardian Angel, we support every survivor, irrespective of their gender.

 

It’s estimated that one woman is killed by her male partner or former partner every four days in England and Wales and at least 1 in 3 women and up to 1 in 9 men have been subject to domestic abuse. Whilst young women, disabled women and lesbian, gay, bi and trans people are most at risk of experiencing abuse in their relationships. Studies also show that women are more likely to experience multiple incidents of abuse, different types of domestic abuse, and sexual violence.

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We recognise that everyone’s experience of abuse will be different, we understand that society does not treat everyone equally and that there are multiple forms of discrimination and violence that some people can face such as forced marriage, female genital mutilation and so-called “honour crimes” which will impact on their experience.

 

"When we support a victim or survivor, we listen to them and treat them as an individual with their own unique experiences finding the support that is right for them." Guardian Angel 

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What are the different types of domestic abuse?

Coercive Control

An act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.

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Emotional & Psychological

Constant criticism, insults, belittling, gaslighting (making you doubt your own sanity), and manipulating you or your children.

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Physical

Any form of physical violence including slapping, pushing, hitting, kicking, choking, or using weapons.

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Sexual

Any sexual act without consent. This includes rape, sexual assault, pressuring you into sex, and refusing to use protection.

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Digital & Online

Monitoring your social media, sharing private photos without consent, using tracking devices, and sending harassing messages.

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Financial

Controlling your access to money, putting you in debt, or preventing you from working or studying.

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Stalking

A pattern of repeated, unwanted attention and contact that causes you to feel fear or distress. This can be online or in person.

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Forced Marriage

When you face physical or emotional pressure to marry someone against your will.

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So-called 'Honour' Based Abuse

Abuse committed to 'protect' or 'defend' the so-called honour of a family or community, which can include controlling behaviour, violence, and forced marriage.

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Female Genital Mutilation (FGM)

A procedure where the female genitals are deliberately cut or changed for non-medical reasons. It is illegal in the UK and a form of child abuse.

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Key Questions to Ask Yourself

Have you ever felt afraid of your partner?

Have you ever changed your behaviour because you're afraid of what your partner might do?

If you think you may be in an abusive relationship, there are lots of people who can help you. Visit our resources and helplines page to find support.

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